Relationships and why they fail!

One thing that has been reigning rather alarmingly this past decade is the creation and destruction of the most abused association called “Relationship”. Different age grades of the male and female gender are these days seen being especially attached to another.

What is the relationship? A relationship simply put, is the connectedness between two persons (in this case, an emotional connection). Having recorded this definition, it is quite clear that the relationship was created and structured to be bliss (though not free of arguments and disagreements).

However, it is also widely known that relationships these days are just institutions that are mostly erected on faulty and rickety foundations thereby leading to its early collapse. Certain factors though are attributed to the successful demise of what was once a blissful relationship. In this little composition, I will be highlighting and elaborating on just a few numbers

· Egocentricity

Of all the factors that sponsor the decay of relationships, the small yet mighty “Ego” tops the chart list. It is made up of 3 letters but has the unrivaled capacity to destroy the 12 lettered Relationship so easily.

It has been agreed that 99% of failed relationships are traced to the “menace” called ego. Now, we all (without exception) have an ego, but the mismanagement of it can lead to a ginormous disaster, in this case, one with your most cherished.

When the ego is given a window of expression, the relationship is faced with one-sidedness, and either of the participants begins to want things done their way and prioritize their own opinion in every discussion. The realization of two working to make this work suddenly fades away but the resuscitation of that realization rebuilds (which hardly happens).

In every relationship, it is expedient to know that it takes two to tango.

· The case of compatibility

This happens to be an overlooked (yet crucial) pillar for the solid foundation of the relationship. Ever noticed you feel rather uncomfortable with the one you are in a relationship with? The answer is this: You both aren’t compatible. Ever noticed that no matter the efforts (the games, openings, and what have you) you put to spice the relationship, it rolls to a dead end? The answer remains: You aren’t compatible.

Compatibility transcends the “uniformity” of your body goals. That he’s madly built and you’re one with the “Hourglass” shape doesn’t depict compatibility (contrary to the ideology of the average youth).

Compatibility encompasses but is not limited to your similar views on a topic, your emotionality, spirituality, and even intelligence quotient. A relationship based on the “ability to touch you in the right places” is not a function of compatibility but “expertise” and is bound to collide with rocks.

· Trust issues

In my decade of assimilating relationships, I stumbled on a dangerous member of relationships. It’s known as “distrust” or “trust issues”. The question of “Is it wrong to go through my partner’s phone (s)?” unknown by many, is a question of acute distrust. You are trying to satisfy a “not yet obvious” tingling feeling of emotional infidelity (trust issues). You suddenly begin to feel there is a “somebody” when there isn’t even a “thing”. You begin to act “beside yourself” and with your own hands destroy the relationship.

As time goes by, the “not so obvious” trust issue escalates to an acute one and that leads inevitably to the funeral of what once was a “promising” relationship.

There are many more reasons why relationships fail (which will be discussed later if permitted), but these three have broken even the supposed strong relationships. They creep in as viruses and are unattended to until they cause irreparable damage.

Relationships aren’t all roses and candles, sometimes you get the thorns and the burning wax. No matter what may, you shouldn’t throw in the towel and always stand by your partner. There is no perfect relationship but your acceptance of your imperfections leads to your heavenly perfection.

Stay good.

Stay safe.